Lately, the women I’m working with (and let’s be honest, this includes me too) are hearing a lot of voices these days. No we’re not crazy, we’re entrepreneurs. We set ambitious (ok, sometimes insane) goals and then set out to achieve them. And then all of a sudden, we experience intense resistance, distraction, or worse, thoughts that flat out tell us we’re nuts and we should just be happy with what we have.
Sound familiar? If so, your voices are getting the best of you. The truth is: the bolder you are, the louder they get. Those voices – the ones that say “I’m too busy/old/tired,” or “I could never do THAT,” or “They’ll think I’m crazy” – are designed to keep you stuck in place. Please understand: those are ego voices and they can smell defeat – they know you’re about to break out to a new level, and they’ll fight to the bitter end to keep you “where you belong.” These voices are simply part of being human. The beauty is your SPIRIT knows you are a limitless, creative being capable of anything that you can imagine. If you can dream it, you can achieve it, hands down. You’re here for greatness, however that looks for you, and the world is aching to receive your gifts (and pay you well, btw).
So what should you do when it feels like the voices are winning the war?
- Realize that the louder they scream, the bolder you’re being. And that’s a good thing. Many of the courageous women I’m blessed to work with are surprised by the amount of resistance and heaviness they feel as they’re stretching to new heights. I remind them that if they weren’t experiencing this cacophony of voices, it would mean they weren’t reaching far enough. So the voices are actually a barometer that lets you know you’re growing – you just need to learn how to put them in their place.
- Turn down the volume. Picture a volume button, and simply turn it down until they’re just a whisper. Seriously. It’s unlikely they’ll go away right away, so just shush them. “That which you resist persists,” so acknowledge they’re there, and start listening to your inner truth “I CAN do this…I was meant to do this…my success is assured…Spirit is my business partner….”
- Personify them. Sometimes it helps to objectify the voices. Picture what they look like – what are they wearing, saying, doing? Talk back to them. And by all means, give them an assignment while you’re trying to get your work done. Some of the more creative solutions I’ve heard include:
- Invite them to curl up in your lap with a blankie and take a nap
- Stick them in the back seat of the car while YOU take the driver’s wheel
- Banish them in the corner with a fifth of vodka and tell ‘em to have a good time because you’ve got important work to do
Whatever you decide to do, PLEASE DON’T take them seriously. They’re just toddlers who need to be parented into submission.